Monday, January 26, 2015

When Beauty Matters

Shattering the mold of beauty in beauty pageants and other contests

I thought about not watching the Miss Universe pageant because I knew there would hardly be any black female contestants in the final lineup.  I knew the final contestants would be Latinas and they would throw a few other ethnicities in the mix just to say the contest was fair and just.  To be fair, Miss Nigeria was voted Miss Congeniality, I guess, if that counts?  I would’ve even settled for an Asian woman in the final line up just to prove this was truly about representing the beauty of all ethnicities.  But once again, the European standard of beauty prevails and Miss Colombia was crowned Miss Universe 2015.

I love my Latina sisters and I think they are blessed with beautiful looks and beautiful hourglass figures.   However, let’s not forget about our beautiful African sisters with dark, mocha or caramel skin, beautiful curly hair and full lips.  Or our beautiful Asian sisters with their beautiful long, luscious locks of hair and ivory porcelain skin.  And who can forget our beautiful naturally red-haired sisters who probably have to dye their hair just to make it on stage.  If we’re going to judge on beauty, let’s make sure we have an all-inclusive view on beauty from many different perspectives.

Let’s move on to the size of the contestants.  As most of us who have seen beauty pageants know by now, the girls are usually a size 0-2 as this seems to be the standard.  Interestingly enough, women from many of the other countries do not adhere to this standard because their body frames were not made to be thin sized women.  It’s the opposite in other countries where the more weight (healthy of course) the woman has on her body, the more beautiful.  According to the book, “Survival of the Prettiest” by Nancy Etcoff, there are some African countries where girls are encouraged to gain weight in preparation for child bearing.  These women come from very poor countries where they don’t know where their next meal will come from one day to the next one.  Now, as a newly certified fitness coach, I’m certainly not advocating obesity or being overweight but that these women have a different level of healthiness based on their size and we should learn to respect those differences.

What about a woman’s hair?  Well, as you can tell from past year’s contestants, the hair is usually long and straight with a few spiral curls as an added bonus.  Virtually, no contestants go “au-naturale”.  In fact, I can only guess most of them wear extensions, lashes and other enhancements to achieve what is believed to be the perfect Eurocentric look that wins beauty pageants.  And who can blame them, of course?  As the old saying goes, “when in Rome, do as the Romans do!”

So why should we care about a beauty contest?  Well, first I believe that beauty contests set the stage for beauty around the world, even if it’s an unintended consequence.  In fact, Etcoff states in her book that, “every woman finds herself, without her consent, entered into a beauty contest with every other woman…no matter how irrelevant to her goals, how inappropriate to her talents and endowments or how ridiculous the comparison.”  We find ourselves buying fake hair, fake breasts and nowadays even fake buttocks just to look like the girls on TV even when that mold doesn’t really fit us. 

And secondly, these are the images our kids subscribe to in finding role models with which to look up to in beauty pageants and other contests.  Maybe little Myra doesn’t look like Miss Colombia or Brazil but she is a curly-haired, brown-skinned angel that has the cutest smile you’ve ever seen.  She sees the beauty in these ladies on stage but could never see winning the competition because she doesn’t see anyone who looks like her. 

We live in this world together.  Our differences are what makes us unique.  If we all looked alike, think about what a boring world this would be.  Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes.  As a former pageant queen and fitness model, I know the pressure to try to conform and fit into the European standards imposed upon us by society.  Whether it’s our hair type, skin complexion or body type, it’s tough to break that mold of what society sees as beautiful.  But that we must.  We must stand up and tell the world that each and every woman of every ethnicity is beautiful and that every little girl has a chance to win the crown she’s always dreamed of!

And while this change isn’t going to happen overnight.  I believe it will come someday.  I have a dream.

Thanks for reading!

For more helpful dating tips, please check out my blog at www.liveloveaspire.blogspot.com or you may inquire about my life/relationship/fitness coaching services at www.liveloveaspire.com. 


What’s New?  We have meet up groups for both men and women for those living in the Baltimore-DC area.
 
 

Monday, January 19, 2015

Dear God, Where Is He (or She)?


“Oh ye of little faith”….(and plenty of excuses!)

Have you been questioning your faith recently?  Do you find yourself envious of other people because they have what you want?  Your friends all seem to be happily in love while you struggle to find a date?  I do a plethora of workshops and seminars and this is always the sentiment I get from a workshop member who questions their faith in finally finding the one.  But maybe this isn’t the time to question your faith as much as it is to restore it.

Keeping the faith is a hard pill to swallow because you have to believe in the invisible.  You have to believe in something that you cannot see, hear, touch or feel as of yet.  They exist only in your mind.  The uncertainty of what is to come kills you on the inside to the point that you find yourself simply giving up the dream.  But it is at that precise moment when your faith must be the strongest to avoid having those doubts and anxieties.  I’ve seen so many times where people give up hope just when their dreams were about to be realized. 

Go with me for a second.  We’re going to see into the future.  Imagine if the guy you’ve been seeing for a while at your local cafĂ© finally asked you out on a date.  Or what if “Mr. or Mrs. Right” were standing next to you in the subway station and just so happens to get off at the same stop as you.  Let’s go a bit further into the future.  Imagine standing next to them at the altar while your family and friends are congratulating you.  How does that make you feel?

Now let’s flip that script and imagine if in the process of meeting that person you had already completely given up hope because of the excuses you’ve made up in your mind of never being able to meet the one.  Humor me for a second and let’s explore some of our most common excuses examining whether they should be considered true or false:

True or False

1.       “I’m just too old”False!  You’re never too old to meet the one!  I just had a client of mine get married and they are well above the age that you would think people should marry.  And they’re like school kids in love.  You can’t tell if they’re 21 or 51!  Age doesn’t matter when you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with as long as you meet them!

2.       “It’s the ratio of men and women”False!  The only ratio there is, is in your head!  I can’t tell there is a ratio because people are still getting married!  I’m sure if there was a decline in marriages because of the ratio, wedding planners would let us know immediately!  The wedding industry is still a billion dollar industry and they’re not complaining and neither should you!  Besides, you only need one person and your chances of meeting him or her are still pretty good!

3.       “I just can’t seem to get a date so I must be destined to be alone”False!  Just because you can’t get a date doesn’t mean you’re destined to be a spinster!  It just means you need to try a little harder to find him.  Maybe you need to go out more.  If going out meeting people isn’t your thing, try dating online.  Whatever you do, don’t give up!

4.       “I’m just too busy”True and False!  Well, if all you’re doing is going to work and going home then you may be right!  You will have to make the time for that special someone.  Finding someone takes time and effort.  Keeping them takes even more effort.  But if you’re serious about having someone in your life, you’ll make the time.  Prioritize!

5.       “He’ll find me”True and False!  As the old saying goes, “when one looks, one never finds”….true but only if you’re open to being found.  I hear many of my girlfriends say this but then they’re not open to someone finding them either.  If your head is always in the books or if you’re always at work, how is he supposed to find you?  Let’s be honest, he would need to wear a sign on his back to get your attention!

6.       “All Men (or insert women) are no good! – False!  Do you really believe this?  Many times when I hear people say this I know they have been hurt in their past and they’re letting their past dictate their future.  They all say they’re over their ex but the residue of bitter feelings still remain only to be carried into the next relationship.  If you need to cry, meditate or find some other constructive way to vent your feelings, do that.  Just don’t take this out on your future companion hurting your chances of having a great relationship with the next person.

In short, I wrote this blog to give you a piece of encouragement if you’re feeling down and questioning your faith.  Maybe God has not forsaken you but you have forsaken yourself with your own set of excuses.  Many of the excuses we give ourselves are to avoid taking the action and the effort it takes to create a loving relationship.  Maybe God wants to open doors for us but wants us to at least be able to walk through them.  I believe we create our own destiny in life.  There are no excuses except the ones we create for ourselves.  Sure, there are environmental influences that are outside of our own control but I believe those are there to make us stronger so we are better prepared when those things we want in life come true and that includes meeting that special someone.  But if you give up hope and the faith your dreams will come true, then you’ll never know what could happen. 

Be Encouraged!

For more helpful dating tips, please check out my blog at www.liveloveaspire.blogspot.com or you may inquire about my life/relationship coaching/fitness consulting services at www.liveloveaspire.com. 


What’s New?  We have meet up groups for both men and women for those living in the Baltimore-DC area.

Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Valentine’s Day Weight Loss Challenge



Are You Ready For A Transformation?

Who is this for?  Anyone looking to lose weight and transform their lives inside and out.

What is it?  Free Valentine’s Day Weight Loss Challenge with cash prizes for the winners.

What’s the catch?  There is none!  This is the perfect challenge for you if your New Year’s resolution is to lose weight or you just want to look good for that special someone.  And the best part is that if you win you get paid for losing weight!

Where will this take place?  Online (complimentary conference calls) and Offline (optional based on the number of applicants) to help you maintain your weight loss goal!

When does the contest start?  January 10th - February 12th 

Why should I participate?  If you’re like me and want to look like you’re in your best shape, this contest is for you.  We’re just giving you more of an incentive to put your best foot forward.  Staying active is a great way to make new friends, create more intimacy and ensure you are around for your partner a very long time.

How much weight would I have to lose?  We’re not just judging the winner of the contest on how much weight they’ve lost but on how much effort they’ve put in and how much they’ve learned in the process.  We would rather take an overall approach and look at their total transformation.

What do I get if I win?

There are 1st, 2nd and 3rd place winners. 

1st place:  $50 cash/prizes

2nd place: $30 cash/prizes

3rd place:  $25 cash/prizes

How do I get started?  Registration is easy.  Simply contact us directly at moniqueboyd@liveloveaspire.com so we can give you further information regarding contest rules and regulations.  In general, all that is required is your height and body weight measurements.  You’ll also need to provide us with a clear body shot image of yourself.   

Can I get started now?  Absolutely!  Once you’ve submitted your information to us, please do begin your workout routine and diet regimen.  We’ll also be creating video content as well as sending you useful articles that will help you on your weight loss journey!  Good Luck!



Good Luck!

Kind Regards,
Monique Boyd, CEO
www.liveloveaspire.com
"Where hearts unite for a common goal"
Phone:  855-843-3582

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Looking For A Great Way To Meet People?…..Try Your Local Gym!


Have you avoided looking for love in the gym….you may want to reconsider!

As a “veteran” member in multiple gyms over the span of my lifetime, I have seen and heard it all.  I have seen people come and go in the gym.  Most of us veterans know that the month of January is when all the new people come in hoping for a solution to their weight loss goals.  And I would say somewhere between the 15th and the 31st of January is usually when they realize losing weight is not quite so easy as those infomercials selling fat loss would have you to believe.  But what if those same new members met someone special in their local gym.  I can almost bet you they would not only stay as active members but would also lose their desired weight as well.

In the past, I must admit I was very against meeting someone in the gym until I began fitness consulting services for my own business and started spending more and more of my time there.  While training in the gym, I started meeting lots of nice people and became very acquainted with them.  But what really changed my mind is the community connection you get in local gyms that cannot be replaced online.  People in local gyms all seem to root for the same teams, share the same community struggles and most importantly, get to know one another far better than dating some unknown person online.  This seems to be a much better way to meet someone since the person you meet in your local gym will more than likely live near you.  What more could you ask for in convenience!

There’s also more singles in the gym!  Most of the married people that I know, particularly the ones with kids, do not have the time to spend in the gym and will generally purchase at home gym equipment to maximize their time with their family.  On the other hand, singles have more time to dedicate to the gym and may spend countless hours there.  This is really good news if you’re single because it gives you a plethora of options to choose from in a mate.  And don’t forget most of the singles there tend to be in healthy shape too!  A huge plus in my book! 

In general, meeting your mate in the gym has many other benefits including having a “work out buddy” to cheer you on and encourage you through the roller coaster ride of losing weight.  From what I’ve seen in many gym newcomers, the ones who have partners or friends to work out with, maintain their goals far better than those who work out alone.  Besides, having your own “spotter” doesn’t hurt either!

So how does this process work you say?  Well, first you need to really work out!  Seriously!  Most of us veterans can spot the newbies very quickly because 1) they’re too scared to lift weights and 2) they look confused on the machines!  It’s quite alright though because most of us were new to the gym at one point in time and will appreciate your effort in being there.  However, to gain someone’s interest, you’ll need to look the part.  Please allow me to explain further.

If you look like you’re only going to the gym to meet your husband or wife, you’ll be identified immediately!  As I said before, most of the active members know the ones who are there to really work out and those who are there to put on a show.  The members who are truly there to work out are actually working out and don’t have hours to chat as if they’re in a club.  Your best bet is to have a purpose for being there and stick to it.

So to get you started on your fitness “love” journey, I have listed a few tips to help you!

1.       Dress The Part – If you’ve been out of the gym since the late 80’s then you’re probably in need of a wardrobe update.  And of course, if you’re just out of college where wearing a dirty t-shirt and sweatpants were the norm, think again!  Remember, first impressions count, especially when you’re single.  If you want to truly impress that special someone, spend a little extra money on quality work out attire.  It doesn’t have to be glamorous nor necessarily “En Vogue”, but it should fit you well and have a sense of your own taste and style attached to it.

2.       Establish Your Weight Loss Goals – Have a goal that you want to accomplish in the gym.  Most gym-goers have specific goals they want to hit including losing weight for that special date, school reunions, looking good in that bikini, etc.  Establishing a goal upfront will give you more purpose and will let others know you are not just there to flirt but also to improve yourself as well. 

3.       Hire a trainer to help you work out – If you’re new to the gym, hiring a trainer is a great to help you get started.  They’ll show you various equipment and fitness techniques you can use to hit your goals.  While you’re working out with the trainer, this can be a great way to get to know others in the gym with similar goals as well.

4.       Engage In Fun Group Co-ed Activities – If you’re going to be consistent in the gym, you’ll need a few incentives and having fun is one of them.  The more fun you have with your work out, the more you’ll stick to the plan.  Local gyms have made enormous strides in ensuring their members have access to the best group fitness instructors and the best group training programs to help their members lose weight.  From group cycling to group yoga, the group classes range from low intensity to high intensity based on your level of fitness.  And more importantly, you’re having fun with others and that is enough to make anyone fall in love!

5.       Be Friendly And Welcoming To Everyone – The best way to meet people is by being open and friendly to them.  Now some people in the gym take their workouts much too seriously but maybe you can be the one to help them lighten up!  These tend to be your neighbors and community leaders all in one place.  What better way to meet them than in your local gym.  Besides, you never know which one of them could be your soulmate!

 In short, there are no shortage of singles in the gym.  If you’ve tried online dating or dating in bars and clubs, this may be your next best option.  It’s safe, convenient and can be a positive experience for you.  There are many benefits to meeting your mate in the gym including sharing the same values/goals and a sense of a community connection as well.  Now I’m certainly not saying it’s a guarantee that you’ll meet “the one” there but it’s certainly worth a try!  So the next time you pass the gym on your way home, stop in and look around.  Your special guy or girl just may be there.

Thanks for reading!

For more helpful dating tips, please check out my blog at www.liveloveaspire.blogspot.com or you may inquire about my life/relationship coaching/fitness consulting services at www.liveloveaspire.com. 


What’s New?  We have meet up groups for both men and women for those living in the Baltimore-DC area.

We also offer personal training services as well!  Please contact me at info@liveloveaspire.com!

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Top 5 Dating Trends We See For 2015


Is the “hook up” culture losing its steam?....find out what the stars say will be trending for 2015…

As a Relationship Coach, I get a front seat to all of the trends happening in dating and relationships.  And for years past, singles have been on the roller coaster ride of trying to navigate the tricky waters of dating.  From the explosion of online dating to the trend of casually “hooking up”, dating has become more confusing than in any time in history.  However, I do have good news for you.  Dating is about to get some help.  So let’s see what the stars have in store for us.

To make predictions, I use Western Astrology which helps me to see any major trends on the horizon.  For example, for the past several years, technology has had a powerful impact on dating and relationships in general.  The planet Neptune, known for illusions and idealism, was in the cool sign of Aquarius.  This planetary aspect has helped to open many doors for us in bringing people together through technology such as Facebook and Skype which to some would’ve seemed unreal years ago.  Yet, even with such great technology, it has yet to replace the chemistry two people have when they are face to face with each other.   

As we fast forward to 2015, the planet Neptune has since moved into the compassionate sign of Pisces so we’re seeing more people become more compassionate and understanding to one another.  This translates to singles becoming more sensitive and understanding to the flaws and weaknesses of a potential mate.  With Neptune in Aquarius, singles were more concerned with a person’s online profile whereas Neptune in Pisces teaches singles to be much more sensitive to the actual person.  But, if we’re not careful, the dark side of Neptune in Pisces can represent self-delusion, manipulation and extreme idealism too!

With that being said, we’re entering into a new and different phase for relationships.  Saturn is now transiting the sign of Sagittarius.  If you read some Astrology blogs, you’ll see that Saturn has been erroneously known for its harsh dictatorship when it’s only here to help us reach our greatest potential by giving us the challenge we need to move to the next level in our lives.  With Saturn in the sign of Sagittarius, we may be thinking more about the meaning of life and how we relate to the world.  We’ll be exploring religion and philosophy more to connect to our own spirituality.  As someone who is single, you may want to date someone more socially conscious or who shares your own personal philosophy on life.

Then there’s the planet Jupiter, known for its benevolence and expansion, which will be in the sign of Leo for half of the year.  It has been in Leo since July 2014 and stays in the sign for at least a year.  Jupiter in Leo is all about letting your own light shine in the world.  But with the planet transiting Virgo in August 2015, we’ll be much more concerned with our work in the community.  Singles may begin searching for other singles with the same mission they have of improving the community through service oriented activities.

So what does all this have to do with me?  Well, if you’re single, you should care about how other singles are feeling as a whole because it influences your love life.  To simplify this a little, I’ve compiled a list for you of the top 5 dating trends I see happening for 2015 and in some cases, beyond this time.

1.       The “Hook Up” Culture Is Losing Steam – Say what?  Yes, you heard correctly!  Well, the “hook up” generation is growing older so they’re realizing that this isn’t exactly going to help them long term, especially if they want to have a family.  I coach many twenty something year olds and they seem tired and wounded from “hooking up”.  They’re ready to settle down.  Thus this type of dating is losing steam fast.  But if you’re enjoying this type of thing…don’t worry…it’s not going anywhere anytime soon. 

Additionally, many of the twenty something’s are experiencing (or about to experience) their Saturn Return.  Saturn returns to its original position in an individual’s birth chart about every 29 years.  So this applies to many singles in their latter twenties and will be a wakeup call for them to begin moving towards a more fruitful life or be compelled to deal with the consequences.

2.       Dating Apps/Online Dating Gets A Reality Check – As more and more singles are becoming increasingly aware of the perils and challenges of dating online, they have discarded it altogether.  At first, this may have seemed like the cool thing to do but most are now wondering if it’s even worth the investment of time and resources. 

Further, the disciplinarian planet, Saturn, is in a challenging aspect to the compassionate, yet sometimes delusional planet of Neptune forcing singles to experience their first reality check that online dating may not be the best way to find love.  Or perhaps singles will begin to balance online dating with offline dating and begin creating a healthier mix of places to meet singles.

3.       More Socially Conscious Singles – On a grand scale, we’re starting to see people becoming more socially active and aware of what’s happening in their communities and on the planet in general.  Young, single twenty something year olds are leading the way for all of us.  This trend has already began with all the social uprisings happening whether they’re enlightening us on the causes of police brutality, racism, sexism, economic inequality, etc. 

What’s helping these social uprisings and singles becoming more socially conscious is the mix of Saturn in Sagittarius (social justice) and Neptune in Pisces (compassion, ideals).  Then with the planet Jupiter going into the service oriented sign of Virgo, the theme for 2015 will really be about working towards helping mankind.  What’s awesome about this is that singles will have opportunities to meet like-minded singles in a healthier way rather just dating online or in a bar or a club.  We’re all excited about this trend!

4.       Fitness/Health/Wellness Will Be A Priority – Health and fitness have always been priorities for singles but I believe it will have much more of an impact for 2015 through 2016.  Singles will find more creative and revolutionary ways to stay in shape other than just going to the gym.  You’re also going to notice singles start taking better care of their health than years ago.  With the national healthcare plan in effect, this may aid singles in taking a more proactive look at their health. 

 

But staying fit and healthy doesn’t just mean staying in shape, it also means getting rid of toxic relationships too.  It has been statistically proven that those in toxic relationships experience more chronic illnesses than those who are not in toxic relationships.  So there may be a long, overdue cleansing of the soul from relationships that are not in our best interests.

 

And lest I forget the forces behind such a powerful influence.  This trend is influenced by Jupiter in Virgo, a sign also known for health/purity and cleaning out the toxins of our soul.  With Jupiter in Leo for part of the year, we may be expanding in areas beyond our capacity so we need Jupiter in Virgo to bring us back down to earth.  She will help us to purify our souls and alleviate the toxins we put in it so we can be healed and renewed.

 

5.       Marriage Is Making A Slow Comeback – That’s right!  I said it!  But where did it go?  Well, actually, marriage hasn’t gone anywhere but I wanted to quiet the cynics who continuously report statistics on how the marriage rate is declining.  And even I’ll admit, the marriage ratio seems to have stalled.  But it will start trending upwards again-eventually!  I believe we’ve gone through our worst years for marriage and now I think we’re tying up those loose ends in 2015.  With the hook up culture losing steam (see dating trend #1), that can only mean people will start “tying the knot” again-thankfully!

But before you get too excited about this trend, just note that marriage won’t be the same as it was when our parents got married.  I believe we’ve learned a lot in the past several years and that information will be implemented into how singles date and eventually get married.  I believe singles will start to look deeper into their partnerships to ensure they are compatible and the right fit for them.  This is something our parent’s did not do before they got married.  Singles these days will have a more well-rounded view of marriage and partnership and this will help them not only get married but stay there.

However, this is a long term prediction and well beyond 2015.  The other planets I did not mention which have a huge influence on relationships were Uranus and Pluto.  Uranus, the planet of revolution and invention, in the sign of Aries and the planet Pluto, known for power and transformation in the sign of Capricorn are in challenging positions with each other!  In relationships, these two planetary influences have challenged our need to be individuals, yet respect the institution of marriage.  When there is any type of aspect to the sign of Libra, known for relationships, this challenge becomes even greater.  These two planets, Uranus and Pluto, will make their last dance within the year and help us to finally resolve whatever matters of the heart has come up for us in the past few years.

In summary, we’re excited about the New Year!  There will be so many positive trends in dating making relationships easier to bear.  What we’ve learned over the past years will help us to relate to each other much better and make communication far easier than it has ever been in history.  With such powerful planets helping us to move to a more compassionate society, our relationships will start to improve tremendously.  That’s good news for us singles trying to find our way through the wonderful maze of dating. 

Thanks for reading!

For more helpful dating tips, please check out my blog at www.liveloveaspire.blogspot.com or you may inquire about my dating/relationship coaching/consulting services at www.liveloveaspire.com.

What’s New?  We have meet up groups for both men and women for those living in the Baltimore-DC area.

We also offer personal training services as well!  Please contact me at info@liveloveaspire.com!

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Does your ‘love handles’ affect who you date?


Your weight maybe directly proportional to the type of singles you meet!

Studies show that more than 60% of people put on weight when they’re in a relationship.  This comes as no surprise to those who have enjoyed the comforts of a relationship including the quality time spent indoors cooking delicious meals and cuddling up with the one you love.  But what happens when that relationship hits a “dead end” and you have to go back out into the dating world.  Most newly identified singles find that those “love handles” that once were thought to be cute and adorable by your spouse are surprised to find out they are a hindrance when competing against other successfully fit singles.

Listen, if you don’t believe me, ask those singles who have been struggling to take weight off that they accumulated in their previous relationship.  Having been out in the dating market, they know the challenges of trying to stay positive even when they know their weight is an issue.  It’s really very subtle too!  The best example of this is when you meet someone in person that you met online and you notice their disappointment in seeing that you carry a little more weight than they originally thought in your online profile.  Or maybe you haven’t seen someone in a long time only to discover they have packed on the weight since you last saw them.   In either case, the rejection can be brutal.

Now although most of us find this to be extremely superficial.  I mean…what about the value of the person on the inside?  Oh yeah…if only the world were like this!  We’re all superficial in our own little ways.  After all, we’re only human!  I would like to think the world we live in only judges us based on who we are on the inside and overlooks what we have physically on the outside but I would be lying.  As human beings, we see the outside of people first, then go with what’s on the inside. 

To make my case even further, let’s go a bit deeper into the truth.  Most people aren’t really wondering how much weight you’ve gained, necessarily.  In fact, physically, most people are happy dating someone of average weight in proportion to their height and size.  Gaining a few extra pounds is hardly going to be a deal breaker but gaining a lot of pounds is.  And there’s the real issue.  You see, most singles are really looking for how you take care of yourself and that includes your health.  Although most people will sympathize with someone obese or overweight, they may not want to date them either.

But let’s look at the bright side!  Losing weight and getting fit is wonderful for your health.  Keeping yourself in shape increases your metabolism and energy levels so you can live an active life.  Besides, who wants to date someone who barely has enough energy to sustain a conversation!  Losing excess weight may be the best decision you can make to not only feel better about yourself but attract the person of your dreams too!

So does your “love handles” affect who you date?  As I’ve mentioned, having a few extra curves probably won’t be the thing that gets you the “boot” from a potential suitor.  But most people who are overweight didn’t think that gaining a few extra pounds would make a difference either until one day they woke up and realized they weren’t getting the dates or meeting the type of singles they wanted to meet anymore.  And that was their wake up call.   

Thanks for reading!

For more helpful dating tips, please check out my blog at www.liveloveaspire.blogspot.com or you may inquire about my dating/relationship coaching services at www.liveloveaspire.com.

What’s New?  We now offer personal training services as well!  If you live in the Baltimore-DC area, please give us a call!

Friday, December 5, 2014

Workshop Series: Dream Girl's Cooking Class 101

Hey Ladies,

By popular demand, we're gearing up to host our very own cooking class right in time for Valentine's Day!  We're planning to have our very own private cooking lessons from a local private chef, Chef Nichole Adriane, known for her cooking skills and expertise in the kitchen.  She'll be teaching us how to cook meals that don't require a culinary arts degree nor that costs a fortune to make.
So ladies please bring your curiosity and your taste buds, you're sure to find something special that you can cook for your man.

Here's her website:
www.TheUrbanChicChef.com